[Author Interview] Bree Stedman | Own Your BS
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ATAI: Tell us a little about you.
For the past 4 years I’ve dedicated my working life to helping professional mums find Emotional Confidence – to better understand and address their Head Talk by learning and working with their very unique Female Brain…. But the lead up to me being able to do this was an aggressive, less than ideal rollercoaster for my family and myself.
For more than 6 years I had been building a successful business in the Direct Sales Industry – known as a positive and influential leader, it appeared that I had ‘it all’ together.
Behind closed doors though I hid a dark secret that sabotaged the success and satisfaction I was experiencing in my life.
With 2 young children at home, I found myself frequently feeling angry, ashamed and guilty. The build up of emotions hid a truth I wouldn’t allow anyone to see, and that was the resentment I felt for my mother role. It felt as though I spent my entire day wrestling with negative and destructive self-talk that zapped my energy, diminished my confidence and dragged me away from appreciating the here and now. I got trapped in an Emotional Fog fueled by negative Head Talk.
In 2012 I hit an all-time low – living on the verge of ‘losing it’ all of the time, with bouts of out of control behavior I was only just hanging on when I realized that I hated being a mum! I hated what my life had become – who I had become.
After one particular violent episode, I knew that I had a choice – let the self-talk dominate and control my life, or address my inner voice and commit to becoming the best me I could be.
This decision became a pivotal moment in my life that quickly changed everything. With family relationships improving and my self-belief back in tact, I turned my professional attention to helping other mums and women to gain what I now felt – confidence to create a life of control, self-belief and clarity.
ATAI: How long have you been writing?
Own Your BS is the first book I’ve had the pleasure of writing.
ATAI: What was your most recent release?
Own Your BS: The No-Nonsense guide to addressing your Female Head Talk
ATAI: What do you love most about writing?
Although new to the writing world, I most enjoyed the ‘rawness’ and authenticity the experience provided me, to dig deep and share my truth. I’m a big believer in ‘no-fluff’ – getting down to business quickly. And so to be able to shift through the years of experience and knowledge I’ve accumulated and condense it into a book that has the potential to really help a woman with her self-talk was a real privilege.
ATAI: What do you find most challenging?
Embracing vulnerability in print – sharing some of the details of my story, particularly the relationship I shared with my son when I was in the ‘crazy-pyscho mumma’ mode. Being honest with my experiences felt necessary, as I know that many mums have the same struggles, however putting it in print knowing that my family, my friends and colleagues would now have insight into how much I struggled was challenging.
ATAI: Where do your ideas come from?
A combination of my own life experiences and learnings, and the extensive training and studying I’ve participated in at the Institute of Women International over the last 5 years.
ATAI: What is your writing process?
Thanks to my coaches at the Wellness Leadership Academy, the writing process was simplified into a journey for the reader. I spent a weekend Immersion in Hawaii in December 2016 where I hashed out the plan and feel for the book, and then gave myself a timeframe of one chapter every 4-5 days. I found that having a short term specific focus kept me on track and kept the writing purposeful.
ATAI: Do your characters (or message) ever seem to have a life of their own or an agenda of their own?
The message of my book – to own the role you play with your negative self-talk definitely took on an agenda. It’s something I’m very passionate about in my daily life – whenever I thought of a struggling mum reading the book, the words would just flow with a life of their own.
ATAI: What’s your favorite part of your book (or one of your books)?
When I decided to write Own Your BS, I wanted it to be a hands-on practical tool that women could not only embrace but physically do something with to bring themselves a sense of peace and control over their head talk. So I think my favorite part of the book is the awareness activities of common limiting language in chapter 3 – the activities I encourage readers (and clients) to do neutralize negative emotions very effectively while highlighting possible choices for readers to take. I also really loved sharing my philosophy on goal setting – bringing the masculine (logical) brain together with the feminine (emotional) brain that really inspires action, no matter what a woman dreams or desires for herself.
ATAI: What are you working on next?
I’m currently working on a follow-on program to the book – it’s a 9 week Online Course (called Own Your BS: The Program) that extends the awareness gained in the book with a tool-box of in-the moment life strategies and for women to master, that helps them not only cope with life, but deal with all the challenges that show up. My true passion & vision for my life is to help women to be role models not only for themselves, but also for the people they influence most in their worlds, particularly children. Own Your BS: The Program has been designed so women can start to empower themselves and others simply and effectively.
ATAI: Where can people find you online?
ATAI: Thank you for sharing with us and our audience.
Thank you so much for this opportunity! I hope that I’ve been able to inspire any woman who is struggling with sabotaging and destructive self-talk to know that you’re not alone, and secondly there are really simple things you can do to take back control. Head Talk does not need to consume your day, your relationships or your dreams.
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